Married Life

I've been married a month and a day now.
As a young girl struggling with my sexuality and other issues, I never gave much thought to marriage. I never thought about what my wedding would look like, or what my kids names would be, or even what my future partner would be like. But somehow, getting married was just suddenly the right thing to do. Sure, I thought about the consequences and the responsibilites, but what it ultimately came down to is that for the first time in my life I began to plan for a future that included someone else. I was choosing schools based on proximity of my boyfriends children, analyzing the strength of the city for potential careers for him, and I was concerned with the amount of money he would spend on gifts for me. (Believe me, I never imagined I would have to ask a man to STOP buying me flowers!!)
So now I'm married. And nothing has really changed. We still love each other in that funny little way that we do, we still argue over little things, and support each other over the big things. The only difference is that we have committed to work everything out to the best of our ability for the rest of our lives. But really, if you are dating someone and you can see the end...why continue to date? Unless of course, you are being completly honest with yourself and know that you are dating for sex, money, or free rides at Dorney Park, then eh..let it ride!
The only complaint so far is the name chaging process. What a pain. Ladies, unless you plan on having kids there is no reason to change your name. Honestly.
And the worst part is the built in sexist history to the whole process. For me to change my name to Jennifer Marie-Juergensen McGee, I just had to fill out a few papers and run all over town waiting in lines to drop them off. For Corey to change his name to Corey Michael-Juergensen McGee (Note: just his useless MIDDLE name) it will require a trip to a court house, some fees, then he'll have to fill out the aforementioned papers and run around town dropping them off.
so anyway, now armed with a new identity I am ready to...fight?conquer?...nah. Live my life the same way I always had but with a sexy husband by my side.